Work, have a side hustle, drink water, look good, do all the things and be happy while doing them. Oh, and don’t forget to practice self care regularly while also making sure that your partner feels valued and wanted. If you’re also fulfilling the role of a student you should probably have really good grades too, while pursuing some type of artsy passion. And, if you’re a Mama? Make sure that your child’s social/emotional/physical health is being addressed as you foster their independence, but also make sure they don’t feel abandoned.
Was that over dramatic and poorly written? Maybe. Was it true? 100% yes. Whenever I talk with my colleagues or friends we all have one thing in common: we’re stressed out, burned out, and tired AF. How do we fix it? And how did we get here in the first place? I’m at a crossroads here. On the one hand, I think my generation needs to do all of the things mentioned above. Take care of ourselves, make sure we’re fulfilling our passions, and having fun. But, I also have a major problem with the fact that “adulting” has been turned into a VERB. Like, there’s a workshop on adulting being offered for my fellow millennials.
Yeah, I’m stressed out. I feel like it’s sometimes impossible to find a balance between working, being a mom, being a wife, and making sure the bills are paid and we still have time for fun. Yes, I’m convinced I’m not always doing the best at one or more of those things. But, I still get up every morning and make sure the things get done. Is this how every generation feels, or are we just finally talking about it and attempting to make a change?
I know I’m not alone in this. I know I’m not the only one who feels this way on an almost-daily basis. I also acknowledge that I create most of the pressure myself. So, do I post a sparkly bubble bath on Insta and add #selfcare and #treatyoself to the description? Or, do I “suck it up” as the generations before us apparently did without complaining? If you have an answer hit me up, because I’m #stressedaf, #notsorryboutit, and being zen is currently #goals.
I have an ongoing wishlist in my head because I love all the things. I’m constantly someone who wants new gear for whatever peaks my fancy at the time. The past year or so? Self care all the way. I made it a mission especially for 2018 to really place my self care at the forefront of my being in terms of importance. I don’t typically do this. I felt selfish at first. But then? I looked around and realized I can’t pour from an empty cup. So, I’ve really taken pride in my personal time in the early mornings, started my Tone it Up Workouts again (free, ya’ll) and am trying not to lose my ish on the regular. But, because I’m also a firm believer in the “treat yo-self” philosophy, here’s what’s on my self care list this month:
Umm can I please dive into these high vibe creations and live there forever? Please? On the top of my list is the crystal foam sparkling face wash with Rose Quartz and Watermelon. The packaging is gorgeous and the products themselves are nothing short of magical.
A Fancy Hydroflask water bottle. I have gone through all the bottles. The only one to survive my serial bottle dating? The Klean Kanteen. BUT! It’s not that pretty. I like having a gorgeous water bottle for photos (yes, truth) and for work and yoga. Hydroflask bottles feel smooth, matte, and come in a ton of colors. My birthday is in May. 🙂
A Smokey Quartz Generator. Quartz and I get along really well. But, I’m currently on the hunt for a Smokey Quartz with some inclusions. I want a generator shape so I can use it to charge some of my other crystals while also providing me with the best outlet for my anxious energy. Technically, dark smokey quartz is rare to find and usually blasted with UV (not cool) and artificially colored. I need this in my life…but I don’t want a cheap knock off either.
Finally? A black triangle diffuser necklace from Lava Essentials. Diffuser jewelry is so much fun and makes taking along your favorite oil scents and benefits easy. I have a few bracelets, but I’d really like to swap out some of my necklaces for some amazing aromatherapy power!
Do you guys all believe in the self-care lifestyle? What do you do to make sure your cup is full?
Welcome to 10 Happy Things: the monthly feature on my blog where I get to think about all of the amazing things that happened to me this month.This month I made myself a priority so I could better care for everyone around me. Here’s what went down:
I started working out regularly. And man am I less of a nasty wench. I’m not back to the gym yet, but my morning routine now includes a sweat session. I’m trying to get to pre baby by my birthday in May.
We got Leo into his bed (he never slept in a crib). He actually loves it. And mama likes having more room to lay down with him.
Spring Cleanup happened in our town which means we got to purge some big ticket items like old furniture and make some needed S P A C E in our home.
I reorganized my office and finally cleaned off my desk. Clear space means clear head.
Leo loves crystals!!! SQUEE!!! Yeah, I know, toddlers like shiny pretty things…but it was cute as heck.
I’ve mastered the Anastasia Eyebrow Stick and my brows are looking a lot less sad.
Memorial Medla LLC, our side hustle has officially launched on Valentine’s Day. Check us out on insta @memorialmediallc. Working with my husband? Yeah, not easy all the time…but it’s been a great way to grow together.
We’re eating at home more and menu planning is a regular thing in our house! For a while we relied on a lot of take out or crappy frozen meals. We’re back to cooking and shopping (and eating) a lot better.
Positive self talk is becoming a regular practice for me. Again, not easy. I think we tend to be most critical of ourselves, am I right?
I hit Elite in my doTERRA business. I saved the best for last! Man did that feel good. Goals? Silver by January 2018. Let’s make it happen.
What lit you up this month? February was a great month for me. I’m hoping March is going to be even better!
I’ve been really trying to focus on self care for the 2018 year. Most of 2017 was focusing on everyone else, which is fine and good…but not when you neglect yourself. I’ve started really trying to set intentions and manifest my goals and visions. At first the whole idea seemed silly to me. Like I had to plan my day? But, I realized that before I became a Mom I did that stuff all the time. Now, it was time to revisit and come back to that state of mind. So, here is how I set aside some time to make my days intentional, regardless of whether I’m on my way to work or lounging around for the weekend.
I usually start my morning with a reading from “100 Days of Brave” and reflect on it in my Bullet Journal. It’s a nice way to begin the day reminding myself that whatever comes across my path, I have the tools to handle it. I usually do this right after I feed pupper Myles and set the coffee pot.
I fill my diffusers with something good like Wild Orange essential oil. Wild Orange happens to be the oil of abundance, so I typically diffuse that during the morning in the living area while I write.
Before Leo gets up I do a simple card pull with Gabby Bernstein’s deck from “The Universe has Your Back.” These cards are gorgeous.
Sourced from: healthcrush.com – an amazing place for personal development inspo…just FYI!
On my drive into work I usually do a gratitude prayer of some sort before I even pull out of the driveway. I really tailor it to what I need each day. You can usually find me clutching Citrine while I do this!
And that’s it! I have really simplified my morning rituals so I have time to really focus on what I want for each day. Prayer, meditation, and writing shouldn’t be work…AND THAT, was my major lesson of 2017 (besides, you know…learning that babies don’t follow your schedule, you follow theirs.) Much love and major intentions for 2018. Let me know what you’re planning this year to stay connected!
I set a goal for myself to read 18 books in 2018. It’s not a terrible challenge to do because I read at work a lot, but I’m actually trying to branch out my genres and read more stuff with kick ass women which thankfully, I’m seeing a lot more of. Some of my recent reading has been fun, some has been informative or work based, and some is thrown in between naps and snacks. But, here are my February picks that I think everyone needs to get down with!
The Amulet series is straight fire! Emily is the protagonist who after suffering a terrible tragedy turns up the courage and takes care of business while learning her family are a part of a disappearing sect of people known as Stonekeepers. So, crystals? Mind powers? An awesome female lead? I’m done. The artwork is GORGEOUS and the storyline is on point. I could not stop reading this series. The only downside: the next installment doesn’t come until September of this year.
The Desire Map by Danielle LaPorte is my second pick for this month. I really am working on honing in on my mindfulness and intention setting so this book is perfect for “setting goals with soul.” I actually loved the workbook in the back the best. The content itself was somewhat easy to apply to anyone and anything, so don’t expect something tailored just for you, but the workbook is where you put in the practices that make sense to you. I tried to read this all the way through and realized that was causing me grief, so I went to the contents and picked what spoke to me for that day. Read it how you want, but I HIGHLY suggest completing the writing prompts in the back to get the full experience and to actually complete what you set out to do. Side note: this book suggests setting goals based on how you’ll FEEL instead of what you’ll DO which is a refreshing change!
The Essential Life has been a godsend for me since journeying into the realm of essential oils and holistic health. Out of all of the books out there, this one is my absolute favorite. No dry textbook style of writing, gorgeous images, and lots of quick remedies and uses for all of the oils in your arsenal (and probably some you didn’t know you needed. Can I get an amen to that?
I started with a graphic novel with a kick ass lady character and I’m finishing with one. See how the universe is cyclical? Anya’s Ghost was HANDS DOWN one of my favorite books from this last month. Anya falls down a well and meets a ghost who latches on to her. What she doesn’t know is that the powers that be have other plans for her, and plans that might actually cause her demise once she thins the veil of the spirit world. Ghosts smoking cigarettes, cooking snacks, and the constant fear that you’re turning into your mother (and realizing that’s okay) dominate this snarky quick read!
So far I’ve read 7 of my 18 books for the year and am feeling fine! Hopefully I’ll keep this trend going strong!
I swear basic runs in my blood, but I don’t even care. I am obsessed with everything Rose Gold. It’s not pink, but it’s not white, and it’s not brown. It’s not even gold! It’s just gorgeous and matches virtually everything within my black and grey wardrobe. Remember when Disney went viral because they had Rose Gold ears? You better believe I got a pair for myself!
Aren’t they gorgeous? We won’t be going back to Disney until Leo is at least 5 years old, but I’ll be saving them and wearing them around my home like a nerd for the next few years, that’s for sure. But, I digress!
Rose Gold looks amazing on everyone. I find it hard to rock pastels without looking washed out with my tan skin and dark hair. Worried about rocking something a little lighter? Do it like I do: accessories. This rose gold bangle (which I have) and water bottle make it easy to jump on the trend without gold-washing your entire wardrobe. Even a pendant (extra points if it’s a crystal) makes a cute statement without being extra. 🙂
This year I’m making an effort to write down ideas ASAP so I can stay organized and inspired. I snagged some adorable rose gold notebooks and pens that match my personal style and fit easily into a small bag or back pocket. I’m totally set for a work from home dream session or a meeting after work.
Finally, 2018 was the year I started to be more intentional with my crystals and prayer in general after taking a break when Leo was born. Rose Quartz is perfect for channeling my creative energy and honing on on self love which is a practice we can all stand do do more of! Until next time…get those rose colored glasses on, ya’ll!
Welcome to 10 Happy Things: the monthly feature on my blog where I get to think about all of the amazing things that happened to me this month. Right now, I’ve been feeling some stress, so taking these tiny blessings into consideration helps me with my own mindfulness and to move out of the “blocks” that we all focus on from time to time.
Leo started walking! Technically his first steps were on December 30, but this month it’s been all about how he can get from point A to point B as quickly as possible. I love watching him toddle about.
Regular pants are comfy and they’re a single digit size. Yes, this matters to me.
My husband built a plywood boxspring for Leo’s full size bed so no paying thousands of dollars!
Last weekend it was WARM, like 50 degrees which in JANUARY?? That’s pretty awesome!
I got to reorganize my desk & declutter some old clothes, makeup, pens, and notebooks I no longer had use for.
I have a builder for my doTERRA team and a potential second builder! Looking for number 3 (is it you??)
Work is staying at work most days and this was extremely hard for me to practice.
My son age our homemade veggie burgers and loved them!
“Stranger Things” Season Two has finally made it into my life.
I actually made a business call after bedtime without waking the babes.
What are you happy about this month? Week? Day? Share it with me!
I’ve been really thinking about mindfulness and self care as my two major goals for the new year. That means a few things for me: putting down the phone, being more present, trying to stress less, and to write every day. Work has been stressful, and I’m really trying to focus my mind and leave work at work. It’s not as easy as I thought it would be (since who really only has ONE job nowadays? Side hustles are what millennial basically do, right?) But, I’m finding that amidst all the noise from momming, wifing, teaching, and writing I can use some tools to help me get where I need to be.
A blank journal – oh MAN! Yeah, ok, I spend money on notebooks like I’ve got money to spend. But this one was a gift. Keith got it for me when I was three weeks postpartum and having some serious baby blues. I almost threw it at him. I resented that I had just pushed a baby out of my body and he got me a JOURNAL? Fast forward to over a year later? I picked up this journal and felt…something. So, it’s mine now! I’ve been bullet journaling my side projects, meditations, and writing prompts.
100 Days of Brave by Annie F. Downs – I needed some prompting with my writing, and now that I’m 23 days in I’m actually looking forward to reading her devotions and reflections on them briefly. This is a God-based book, but it’s not a weird preachy type book. It offers some readings, thoughts, and a good sense of humor. Annie F. Downs is just as neurotic as I am and I’m digging that about her.
Gabby Bernstein “The Universe Has Got Your Back Deck” – I’m such a weird worshipper and I don’t really care. I love Jesus and God and the Universe as a whole. That’s what feels great to me, which is why I’m obsessed with Gabby B’s cards! I love her books and have used them many times in the past, but her deck of cards gives me a positive affirmation each morning before work. I usually pair it with some type of oil blend on my temples (a citrus usually does the trick.)
Practice You by Elena Brower – This journal is so exciting to me! My bullet journal is really something for my daily STUFF. This journal is all about ME, so after a year I’ll basically have written a book about myself. The art is gorgeous and the vibe peaceful. Elena Brower is also the mind behind the doTERRA Yoga Collection which is pure magic.
Crystals – Last up? My “rocks” as Keith calls them. I’ve been really into my saints and my crystals lately. I keep a Green Calcite in my work bag to ward off negative energy with my Saint Theresa medal and calming crystals like Celestite in my bedroom for pleasant dreams. I also keep Leo’s stone, Topaz, close by alone with Citrine, and a few more!
MINDFULNESS IS SO IN! I am OBSESSED with the fact that self care is no longer selfish. I’m going to be prioritizing it this year so I can be the best for my fam. How about you?
Any good practice has to become a habit and a routine. Working out, eating well, and of course for me using my essential oils. You’re a normal person you say? Yeah, me too, on Mondays. Seriously though, using essential oils on the daily doesn’t have to be super dramatic. In the beginning I was confused: how the heck do I use these things? But after three years of regular use here’s how I use them in my every day life.
First you need some stuff: essential oils (obviously), a diffuser, and a carrier oil. Carrier oil is SO IMPORTANT. Regardless of the brand, mine is doTERRA, you must dilute, dilute, dilute. I use Fractionated Coconut Oil or Jojoba. Even Olive Oil is a great carrier oil. Diluting oils makes them safe for use on babes, dogs, and your friends and family and helps them absorb better while saving you some cash! Don’t use oils neat on the body. Just don’t! /endrant. Now…on to the routine!
Morning: We start our day anywhere between 4-6 a.m. We are up early as Keith and I have to be at work by 7-7:30. Every day we:
Roll On Guard protective blend on our feet for immune support.
The hours of 4-6 a.m. have become mine. It started when I went back to work last February. Leo was 3 months old (thanks, U.S.A.), and I was exhausted. Breastfeeding and bedsharing gave me some sleep, but I was missing myself. I wasn’t writing, I wasn’t meditating. Then, when I returned to work I started pumping and the hours of 4-6 became mine.
I was determined (and succeeded) in Leo having exclusive breastmilk once we were home from the hospital which means adding in pumping sessions. I’d sit with my coffee and my pump and wait for “my time” to be up. I hated it at first. Then Keith said, “why not make the time yours too? Blog, eat, have coffee.” I just had to be ready to “Mom” by 6am so Keith could go to work. And thus, the early morning became the hours in which I found myself again
Finding yourself as a Mom is hard. I was starting to feel lost. Yoga took a back seat, workouts weren’t happening, I couldn’t even read a book because I was exhausted. I was never resentful, but I was upset. I wanted to be able to balance it all like the magazines said and like other bloggers made it seem: easy. It’s not, and that’s okay.
So, I started owning that time. It wasn’t easy. I was attached to a pump while my baby and husband slept soundly in bed. But then my body got used to it. And then, I stopped pumping at 13 months and nurse directly–so that was one less thing to deal with. I ate breakfast without someone grabbing at me. I soaked up the silence of a dark house. It was cozy, even in the summer.
I started journaling again. I started blogging! I started replying to e-mails and accepting projects. I shaved my legs and took my time in the shower! Something magical happened between the hours of 4-6am and it was where I found myself again.
Everyone says after the kids go to bed is when you should have “your time.” But that wasn’t working for me or my family, so we flipped it and reversed it. Before everyone wakes up it’s my domain and I wouldn’t have it any other way.
Whether you’re a Mom or not: how do you make sure you prioritize your self care? It’s something I’ll be working on in 2018 for sure! Let’s try it out together!