Work, have a side hustle, drink water, look good, do all the things and be happy while doing them. Oh, and don’t forget to practice self care regularly while also making sure that your partner feels valued and wanted. If you’re also fulfilling the role of a student you should probably have really good grades too, while pursuing some type of artsy passion. And, if you’re a Mama? Make sure that your child’s social/emotional/physical health is being addressed as you foster their independence, but also make sure they don’t feel abandoned.
Was that over dramatic and poorly written? Maybe. Was it true? 100% yes. Whenever I talk with my colleagues or friends we all have one thing in common: we’re stressed out, burned out, and tired AF. How do we fix it? And how did we get here in the first place? I’m at a crossroads here. On the one hand, I think my generation needs to do all of the things mentioned above. Take care of ourselves, make sure we’re fulfilling our passions, and having fun. But, I also have a major problem with the fact that “adulting” has been turned into a VERB. Like, there’s a workshop on adulting being offered for my fellow millennials.
Yeah, I’m stressed out. I feel like it’s sometimes impossible to find a balance between working, being a mom, being a wife, and making sure the bills are paid and we still have time for fun. Yes, I’m convinced I’m not always doing the best at one or more of those things. But, I still get up every morning and make sure the things get done. Is this how every generation feels, or are we just finally talking about it and attempting to make a change?
I know I’m not alone in this. I know I’m not the only one who feels this way on an almost-daily basis. I also acknowledge that I create most of the pressure myself. So, do I post a sparkly bubble bath on Insta and add #selfcare and #treatyoself to the description? Or, do I “suck it up” as the generations before us apparently did without complaining? If you have an answer hit me up, because I’m #stressedaf, #notsorryboutit, and being zen is currently #goals.
I have an ongoing wishlist in my head because I love all the things. I’m constantly someone who wants new gear for whatever peaks my fancy at the time. The past year or so? Self care all the way. I made it a mission especially for 2018 to really place my self care at the forefront of my being in terms of importance. I don’t typically do this. I felt selfish at first. But then? I looked around and realized I can’t pour from an empty cup. So, I’ve really taken pride in my personal time in the early mornings, started my Tone it Up Workouts again (free, ya’ll) and am trying not to lose my ish on the regular. But, because I’m also a firm believer in the “treat yo-self” philosophy, here’s what’s on my self care list this month:
Umm can I please dive into these high vibe creations and live there forever? Please? On the top of my list is the crystal foam sparkling face wash with Rose Quartz and Watermelon. The packaging is gorgeous and the products themselves are nothing short of magical.
A Fancy Hydroflask water bottle. I have gone through all the bottles. The only one to survive my serial bottle dating? The Klean Kanteen. BUT! It’s not that pretty. I like having a gorgeous water bottle for photos (yes, truth) and for work and yoga. Hydroflask bottles feel smooth, matte, and come in a ton of colors. My birthday is in May. 🙂
A Smokey Quartz Generator. Quartz and I get along really well. But, I’m currently on the hunt for a Smokey Quartz with some inclusions. I want a generator shape so I can use it to charge some of my other crystals while also providing me with the best outlet for my anxious energy. Technically, dark smokey quartz is rare to find and usually blasted with UV (not cool) and artificially colored. I need this in my life…but I don’t want a cheap knock off either.
Finally? A black triangle diffuser necklace from Lava Essentials. Diffuser jewelry is so much fun and makes taking along your favorite oil scents and benefits easy. I have a few bracelets, but I’d really like to swap out some of my necklaces for some amazing aromatherapy power!
Do you guys all believe in the self-care lifestyle? What do you do to make sure your cup is full?
I’ve been really trying to focus on self care for the 2018 year. Most of 2017 was focusing on everyone else, which is fine and good…but not when you neglect yourself. I’ve started really trying to set intentions and manifest my goals and visions. At first the whole idea seemed silly to me. Like I had to plan my day? But, I realized that before I became a Mom I did that stuff all the time. Now, it was time to revisit and come back to that state of mind. So, here is how I set aside some time to make my days intentional, regardless of whether I’m on my way to work or lounging around for the weekend.
I usually start my morning with a reading from “100 Days of Brave” and reflect on it in my Bullet Journal. It’s a nice way to begin the day reminding myself that whatever comes across my path, I have the tools to handle it. I usually do this right after I feed pupper Myles and set the coffee pot.
I fill my diffusers with something good like Wild Orange essential oil. Wild Orange happens to be the oil of abundance, so I typically diffuse that during the morning in the living area while I write.
Before Leo gets up I do a simple card pull with Gabby Bernstein’s deck from “The Universe has Your Back.” These cards are gorgeous.
Sourced from: healthcrush.com – an amazing place for personal development inspo…just FYI!
On my drive into work I usually do a gratitude prayer of some sort before I even pull out of the driveway. I really tailor it to what I need each day. You can usually find me clutching Citrine while I do this!
And that’s it! I have really simplified my morning rituals so I have time to really focus on what I want for each day. Prayer, meditation, and writing shouldn’t be work…AND THAT, was my major lesson of 2017 (besides, you know…learning that babies don’t follow your schedule, you follow theirs.) Much love and major intentions for 2018. Let me know what you’re planning this year to stay connected!
Any good practice has to become a habit and a routine. Working out, eating well, and of course for me using my essential oils. You’re a normal person you say? Yeah, me too, on Mondays. Seriously though, using essential oils on the daily doesn’t have to be super dramatic. In the beginning I was confused: how the heck do I use these things? But after three years of regular use here’s how I use them in my every day life.
First you need some stuff: essential oils (obviously), a diffuser, and a carrier oil. Carrier oil is SO IMPORTANT. Regardless of the brand, mine is doTERRA, you must dilute, dilute, dilute. I use Fractionated Coconut Oil or Jojoba. Even Olive Oil is a great carrier oil. Diluting oils makes them safe for use on babes, dogs, and your friends and family and helps them absorb better while saving you some cash! Don’t use oils neat on the body. Just don’t! /endrant. Now…on to the routine!
Morning: We start our day anywhere between 4-6 a.m. We are up early as Keith and I have to be at work by 7-7:30. Every day we:
Roll On Guard protective blend on our feet for immune support.
Before you say to me “I don’t get snow days…” STOP! Snow days can be any day you’re stuck home. If you live in the North East like I do, that tends to happen more often than not. I used to hate snow days when I lived home. I wanted to see my friends, go to school, and not be stuck with my parents. Now? I’ll take any excuse to stay in my PJ’s, get things done, and hang out with my baby boy and pup. Looking for something productive to do with your time? Here’s what I love doing on my snow days!
Try a new recipe! When I’m stuck home, I get this weird innate desire to cook. Yeah, me, cook. I know it’s funny. I hate cooking under normal circumstances. But, a snow day gets me inspired to cook something that has a feel good stick to your ribs vibe. I’ve also been known to make a loaf of bread upon the first snow fall. My next crockpot adventure? This delicious and amazing risotto that claims to be easy, cheesy, and all around heavenly. Find a recipe that makes enough for leftovers for the week and lunches are also taken care of. Done, and done!
Clean out your closet! Anytime I’m stuck inside I get the urge to purge. FORGET about your regular cleaning routine. You can cram that in any other day like you normally do. Or, forget about it and ignore what’s happening in the bathroom. Today is for productive cleaning and downsizing. Take anything out of your closet that you haven’t touched in a year. Donate it. Get it out of the house. Do the same thing for your kid’s room. Toys they haven’t played with? Gone! When you go back to work, drop it off at a donation center and feel ten times lighter!
Smudge the house: This is something that is productive for ME, so do with it what you will. My house gets heavy sometimes. My husband and I both work, my Mom is here with Leo, and we have company often. So, a lot of energy gets passed through the doors. Sometimes it gets “stuck” and that can change the entire vibe of the home. Grab some white sage, light it, and go through the corners and rooms of your home. I focus on places that hold a lot of electronics in the home as well while saying something positive like, “I release any stagnant energy and welcome fresh light.” Do what speaks to you!
Grocery Shop: New online places for groceries are popping up all. the. time. I’m obsessed with Amazon Fresh! Their produce is awesome and it’s delivered by USPS. You pick the time and leave the bags on your porch for your mail carrier to pick up. Less waste, less plastic, and no lines.
Take a Nap: I am my best self when I am well rested. I nap with Leo when I feel like I need it. Have a bunch of kids? My friend builds a giant fort in the living room teepee style and they all nap or rest in it. I don’t care what anyone says; you’re never too old for a nap.
You all already know that I love my essential oils. Of course, now they’re becoming more “mainstream”, and people have been coming to me asking about my “magic potions.” Now, I’m a doTERRA devotee ever since we brought our puppy, Myles, home almost three years ago. Our breeder used oils on all of her dogs and the health benefits were evident. Naturally, Keith and I started using them. Once Leo was over 6 months old, I started using oils on him. First, I diffused them in our bedroom and throughout the house. Now, diffusing is part of our sleepytime routine. Soon after, I started making up rollerball blends that met our needs. I get my labels from small shops to make them special. Here is Leo’s routine/recipes for 10 mL roller bottles:
Well Baby Blend – 1 drop Frankincense, 1 drop Lemon, top with FCO* – Frank supports total body health in a gentle way and Lemon cleanses and disinfects. I roll this on Leo’s feet morning and night, extra if we go somewhere germy (parties, playdates, large areas with lots of people).
Chompers Blend – 1 drop Lavender, ! drop Frankincense, 1 Drop Roman Chamomile, top with FCO – Again, Frank is a great all purpose oil. It promotes relaxation and cellular health while Lavender helps swelling and stress! Roman Chamomile also prevents swelling and discomfort. I roll this on Leo’s jawline as needed.
Lullaby – 1 drop Lavender, 1 drop Frankincense, 1 drop Cedarwood, top with FCO – Lullaby is similar to Chompers, but Cedarwood really helps knock us both out! You can add 1 drop of Copaiba to the feet to soothe any anxious feelings, too.
Baby Belly – 1 drop Lemon, 1 drop Wild Orange, 1 drop Frankincense, top with FCO. Anytime Leo is a little gassy I roll this around his bellybutton. It works like a charm, however, keep the skin out of the sunlight for 12 hours as citrus oils react to the sunlight!
Of course make sure that you start slow, watch your baby for any signs of allergy, and consult your ped! But my oily baby loves his roller bottles and so do I! What natural care or oils have you used for baby? Yourself? Want to get started and learn more? Get. At. Me!